I am frequently sent requests to sign parental alienation petitions. The most recent one had four stated goals. The third goal stating:
Whenever I see one that talks about educating judges and social workers, I hesitate, not because I don’t want them educated, but because every request that you make of a court or social worker holds with it an action. If that action means costing you more money and causing you delays, and puts protection of your rights at risk, then I’m not generally for it.
Canada Family Court Cases from 1989-2008:
- Alienation substantiated in 106 out of 175 cases.
- Mothers were alienators 68% of the time.
- Fathers were alienators 31% of the time.
“In order to be alienated by one parent, a child must identify very closely with that parent…[which] occurs if the child is living primarily or exclusively with that parent.”
- Alienating parents had sole custody in 84% of the cases.
- Alienating parents had joint custody in 13% of the cases.
- Alienating parents had only access rights in 3% of the cases.
Conclusion: “In terms of the cases where alienation was found, differences are reflective of custody and child care arrangements rather than a maternal predisposition to alienate children.”**
Bottom line is do you really think that educating a judge on one more reason you should win custody is going to make a whip of a difference? This is the same failed thinking that has cost parents millions, billions of dollars over the last several generations. Get off the train of thinking that you need to prove that something is wrong with someone or that you are worthy of having your child. The only thing that you need to prove to the judge is that you have rights and you won’t tolerate those rights being ignored!
*D.A.D.S. (Dads Against Double Standards) –