Here’s a book we found on the ABA website teaching attorneys how to communicate with judges. The author lists the following list that we feel is severely lacking:
Judges are particularly annoyed by lawyers who:
- ignore the rules of court
- fail to prepare
- arrive late
- repeat themselves
- act rudely
- make frivolous arguments
- mislead the court
- argue with the judge
- refuse to talk settlement
- request a last-minute continuance
*It would be helpful if the court made their process and rules more transparent so that parents could know how to follow the expectations of the court when handling their own cases. But at the same time, the judges are there to rule on the law and to be advised by either you if you are representing yourself or by your counsel first. Not to bully you or your counsel and not to have your counsel cower and be afraid to advise the judge that you have rights. First the attorney has to know that you have rights and that’s why we wrote the book that you can get now to the right of this post, called “Not in the Child’s Best Interest.” This will help your attorney understand the rights that they should have been protecting and defending all along, not fighting over which parent is the better parent or the most desirable one.
Must Have List
We created the following must have list that we feel is a must-have for all parents going to an attorney to defend them in their family law divorce and child custody battle.
Parents are particularly annoyed by judges and attorneys who:
- Ignore the United States Constitution
- Ignore constitutional fundamental protected parental rights;
- Fail to prepare to defend the parent and child’s rights;
- Fail to practice law in family law courts;
- Fail to preserve the parent’s rights at the trial court level;
- Fail to inform the parent that they have rights that are superior to a judge’s, experts, or even their preference;
- Fail to repeat themselves when the Judge has not heard them;
- Fail to treat the parent with respect;
- Fail to object when the judge treats the parent with disrespect;
- Fail to argue the laws with the judge;
- Fail to advise the judge properly on the laws and rights of the parent and child;
- Fail to refuse settlement when the opposing counsel or judge is suggesting violating these rights;
- Fail to know the parent’s and child’s rights;
- Fail to prohibit using the child to violate the parent’s and child’s rights;
- Fail to challenge temporary orders properly;
- Fail to challenge a bad ruling in the trial court properly;
- Fail to challenge statutes that violate the parent’s and child’s rights properly;
- Fail to have a backbone;
- Fail to protect the parent from unnecessary financial loss by unconstitutionally ordered intrusions into their privacy with family studies and examinations and other unwarranted searches through discovery, etc.;
- Fail to treat the parent with respect and dignity;
- Fail to protect the parent properly from financial losses in the form of child support, alimony, or spousal maintenance if they are not properly warranted;
- Fail to protect the relationship of the parent to their child and prevent delays in being heard in court to protect these rights in a timely manner;
- Fail to protect the parent’s and child’s rights to be together equally as the other parent;
- Fail to accept that the parent and the child have the right to have their rights protected equally to the other parent, to be protected from undue burdens and barriers that prevent them from being together in a timely manner;
- Fail to advise the court that benefits in the marriage should not be made conditions of the divorce unless both parties agree;
- Fail to advise the court that status quo is not a condition for violating a parent and child’s right;
- Fail to inform the court that family law cases and divorce cases must respect the limitations placed on them by the constitution of the United States;
- Fail to inform the court that their case is not going to be treated like the cases before and will follow and respect the laws and rights of the United States of America, parents have rights, children have rights, and individuals have rights, and that nothing less will be tolerated or stood for as the final outcome from the court and that all violations of these rights will be timely challenged.
Our book contains what every lawyer should know that is representing a family law case with children. If you don’t have our book “Not in the Child’s Best Interest” you can get our book here.
Our book is everything the attorneys and the judges won’t tell you and hope that you never find out. This way they can continue to put you through the machine and run over you and your rights and tear what is most dear from you or the other parent. The only way to stop this is to educate yourself on how. You will find the hope and peace and more rights than you even thought you probably had in our book.
By following our list attorneys, judges, and parents can prevent court-induced parental alienation, reduce chaos and fear responses and reactions, and protect children by protecting a targeted parent be able to more effectively and quickly counter the other parent’s attempts at alienating them from their child.
The ABA book that we took the excerpt from at the beginning can be located here. The book advises lawyers on how to behave in court according to the ABA:
TRADEMARK NOTE: Court-induced parental alienation™ is a trademark term that has been in consistent trademark usage by Fix Family Courts prior to this article being published on June 21, 2013.