TOOL OF THE DAY: Mediation

CATEGORY: Family Law


How do the divorce courts use mediation? I remember being shocked the first time I went through mediation.

First: you never put someone through mediation when their children are being held hostage from them.

Second: you never force mediation onto a person who has been bullied and abused in the process

Third: you always, always deal with the emotional issues before you try to get a parent to make decisions that will affecting them the rest of their lives.

Fourth: mediation is not intended to be held in separate rooms where the parties cannot see each other and the intent. Having other people communicate for each parent is dangerous. The mediator carrying the messages between parents back and forth to each party can lose some of the information in translation, can choose to present the information in the way they choose, etc.

It is well known that the majority of our communication is not in words but in body language. Most parents going through this already don’t trust each other. Now they have even more reason to not trust.

Fifth: Parents cannot afford another expensive ineffective burden.

Just simply not a good recipe.


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